Meaning of Marriage

Tim Keller wrote a book called the Meaning of Marriage. I like it as he uses the Bible, which never changes, unlike what some are trying to do with marriage in the news. Over half of this video deals with questions- makeing it even more relevant. I do wish he used more humor in this, but cannot disagree with what he said. I am not a marriage expert or a judge, but I know the importance of always working on our marriage- that is why you will find almost 50 video posts on marriage, as well as many other posts on that subject under other labels. If this video is not your style, check out another one under marriage- but please- Never quit working on your marriage. 

“Friendship is a deep oneness that develops when two people, speaking the truth in love to one another, journey together to the same horizon.”

― Timothy Keller,    

“Only with time do we really learn who the other person is and come to love the person for him- or herself and not just for the feelings and experiences they give us.”

― Timothy Keller,

“This principle - that your spouse should be capable of becoming your best friend - is a game changer when you address the question of compatibility in a prospective spouse. If you think of marriage largely in terms of erotic love, then compatibility means sexual chemistry and appeal. If you think of marriage largely as a way to move into the kind of social status in life you desire, then compatibility means being part of the desired social class, and perhaps common tastes and aspirations for lifestyle. The problem with these factors is that they are not durable. Physical attractivess will wane, no matter how hard you work to delay its departure. And socio-economic status unfortunately can change almost overnight. When people think they have found compatibility based on these things, they often make the painful discovery that they have built their relationship on unstable ground. A woman "lets herself go" or a man loses his job, and the compatibility foundation falls apart.”

― Timothy Keller

“What marriage is for: It is a way for two spiritual friends to help each other on their journey to become the persons God designed them to be.”

― Timothy Keller

“The problem is not with marriage itself. According to Genesis 1 and 2, we were made for marriage, and marriage was made for us. Genesis 3 tells us that marriage, along with every other aspect of human life, has been broken because of sin. If our views of marriage are too romantic and idealistic, we underestimate the influence of sin on human life. If they are too pessimistic and cynical, we misunderstand marriage’s divine origin. If we somehow manage, as our modern culture has, to do both at once, we are doubly burdened by a distorted vision. Yet the trouble is not within the institution of marriage but within ourselves.”

― Timothy Keller

“In fact, there are all sorts of great institutions and human enterprises that the Bible doesn’t address or regulate. And so we are free to invent them and operate them in line with the general principles for human life that the Bible gives us. But marriage is different. As the Presbyterian Book of Common Worship says, God “established marriage for the welfare and happiness of humankind.” Marriage did not evolve in the late Bronze Age as a way to determine property rights. At the climax of the Genesis account of creation we see God bringing a woman and a man together to unite them in marriage. The Bible begins with a wedding (of Adam and Eve) and ends in the book of Revelation with a wedding (of Christ and the church). Marriage is God’s idea.”
― Timothy Keller

Marriage is love. Love is blind. Therefore marriage is an institution for the blind.

Your marriage is in trouble if your wife says, ‘You’re only interested in one thing,’ and you can’t remember what it is.

Marriages are made in heaven. But, then again, so are thunder, lightening, tornadoes and hail.